Thursday, April 5, 2012

Feeling like a failure

I've had a rough couple days with my oldest daughter (8 years old) :( It seem I can't get her to do what she is told, EVER! When I ask her to clean the toys etc. in the living room at the end of the day it seems that a 10 minute job turns into 3 days! I have to admit that much of it is my fault. I haven't done the best job in training her I guess and the TV is almost always on. Big distraction!

My husband was away on business and I was at the end of my rope.  I had to run to my room to cry just like a little baby. (This is where the depression kicks in big time). I get so overwhelmed and frustrated that I have to walk away from the situation and regroup. It's times like this that I feel like a failure as a mom. What am I doing that is so wrong?

When I returned, I unplugged the television and took away her DS and told her that she gets nothing back until she learns to do AS she's told, WHEN she's told. She wasn't pleased, and ended up in her room until it was time to leave for her swimming lessons later that evening.

An hour later, her Dad returned from his trip and I threw my arms around him and poured my heart out to him with all my frustrations. Poor guy wasn't even through the door yet.

So, fast forward to this morning. It's amazing how much more calm and quiet it is in the house today. Less fighting and screaming between the girls and some schoolwork is ACTUALLY getting done!

I always knew that having the TV on wasn't the greatest idea, especially when my oldest is working on her schoolwork in the next room. It just seemed to be the easiest way to keep my youngest entertained, I thought, while I helped my other daughter with her lessons.

But the little sweetheart, right now, is sitting on the living room floor playing nicely with her toys. I guess I was wrong. From now on the TV is OFF until almost dinner time. And ONLY if they've tidied up FIRST.

Why did it take me soooo long to figure this out! Now, I just have to make sure I stick to it. That'll surely be the hard part.

So, tell me, what are your rules regarding TV time. And how do you get your kids to learn to do AS they are told WHEN they are told? And when they DON'T listen, how do you punish and/or correct them? I'd love to hear your comments and ideas.

Thanks for listening,

Jennifer

Wednesday, April 4, 2012

My life

This blog is to share my experiences as a stay at home mom and homeschooler. I suffer from depression and I often find even the simplest things overwhelming. But the joys of being home with my girls and watching them grow and learn are just so rewarding. I can't stay down too long, my girls bring me back up.

I'll share everything from what we are leaning in school to fun recipes and family outings. Hope you find it encouraging and fun to read:)

Jennifer

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